There is Grace Worthy of Praise Even in Tragedy
ADONA (January, 1998)
For whose benefit is Grace? When I think of this remembrance, it is clear to me that Ephesians 3:20 NASB is so true - “Now to Him Who [GOD] is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask [or can ask] or think [or imagine or dream], according to the power that works within us.” ([emphasis] is mine)
Go ahead and stretch your imagination to the greatest or worst thing that could possibly happen— and then realize that God can go beyond that to spread His Grace. What do you want God to do in your life? Help you with a problem? Ask him. Help you with some goals? Ask him.
Before I met Adona, I had a fairly good understanding of Grace. But I did not realize that my understanding then was so immature compared to the Grace God showed me a good 10 years after I met her. Grace worthy of praise occurs in many ways. Bear with me a little if you please, as I put my memories in context for you.
I, at the time a 42 year old never-married single, had welcomed myself to a Bible study class for 30's Singles. As far as my new church goes, the gulf between 30's singles and 40's singles was equivalent to the grand canyon in my feeble mind.
Though I found out later that many of the females in the class were over 40 as well, the class was very gracious to allow me to stay. I had heard talk of a female member whom I had never met and the best I could gather, she was ill, and that is why I had not seen Adona, and would not see her for another year.
By the time I was blessed to meet her, I had learned a little more about God's timing. And because of the role Adona was to play in my life later, God's words in 2Peter 3:8-9 are fixed in my mind now and forever: "But do not let this one fact escape your notice, beloved, that with the Lord one day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years like one day. The Lord is not slow about His promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance."
Fast forward another year. The Lord was working mightily in my life. There were so many divorced 30's in the Bible study class that the numbers of singles at the church had swelled out of proportion to what they had ever been. In about a year, God had fed me His Word in such quantities it was like I was trying to drink water from a firehose. Soon, I became the Bible study teacher for the whole 30's class, and the Singles became my ministry at the church. The number of singles 18 and over swelled from about 75 to 400 plus. Such an increase in numbers in attendance at a church is an indicator of God using the church to fulfill His plans.
The church Deacons voted to anoint me as the church's first and only ever Single Deacon, and the church's Singles population was growing exponentially. There may be more Single Deacons now, but at that time I came to be known as "Oh, you're the one," to the other Deacons. Right before I took the reigns of teaching the 30's Singles Bible study class, I was sitting the audience of the class, when in walks none other than Adona. I saw a beautiful young lady with jet black long hair, impeccably dressed.
I stayed fairly quiet during the Bible study being conducted. And then as the end of the study approached Adona went to the front of the class to announce that there would be a benefit bar-b-que for her in Magnolia, a nearby rural town just north east of Houston, Texas. Adona invited the class and told us the bar-b-que entertainment would be Marcia Ball. Right after she finished saying Marcia Ball, I jumped up and said, "Marcia Ball!, I'm going. I would even pay to see her"
Marcia Ball is a favorite entertainer at Austin City Limits music venue that showcased local and regional talent. Marcia played the piano, as no other woman I had ever seen and was a huge motivator for my buying and grand piano. I wanted to learn her style of foot stomping boogie-woogie Louisiana piano playing. Her style of play was a cross between Ray Charles, Mickey Gilley and guitarist Stevie Ray Vaughn.
The bar-b-que was wonderful and the entertainment even better. I saw Adona walking about and with purposeful timing a slow dance song started up. I humbly asked Adona if she would honor me with a dance. During the dance, she whispered to me in my ear, "Thanks for what you said at the Bible study, I'm not sure if we would have had this good a turnout if you had not done that." I admitted to her that I had a selfish motive for attending. One reason was Marcia Ball was one of my favorite entertainers. I confessed that the other reason was that I couldn't take my eyes off of her.
The world seemed to stand still as Adona and I danced in slow circles. She explained that she was getting cancer treatment and the proceeds from the bar-b-que would help her parents with the expenses. I was so saddened to hear her tell me that her doctors said she had a very aggressive form of cancer. The song ended and I kissed her on the cheek and asked her if I could see her again. She said she would like that.
I didn't see Adona for another year. The word was that she was being airlifted to Houston's M.D. Andersen Cancer Institute from Dallas, where she had been getting treatments and living with her parents. She apparently had taken a turn for the worse and her prognosis was not good. In fact, they had decided shortly after she saw the medical team in Houston to be an outpatient. They said that she did not have much time left to live. I too was crushed in sorrow.
Click on this link to read a recount of the last time I saw Adona. Your Grace Downloadables.
Now for the rest of the story, fast forward about 8 years, to 2006.
I hope it does not typecast me to anyone when I say that I am not a big fan of Facebook, any social media other than blogging for that matter. You see, I was a Facebook member years ago, but my page was hacked by a phishing malefactor. All of my likes got sent emails as though they were from me soliciting business that they said I recommended. I closed my membership to Facebook and sent apologizing emails to everyone I could.
Sometime in the second half of 2007, I decided that a Facebook account might be useful for the Math classes I taught. So, I opened a new one. But, I left it untouched for over six-months thinking about how I could securitize it better than my first membership site.
Another one of those "out-of-the-blue" events happened through of all channels, Facebook, when I got a message on my Facebook page.
The email started out sort of tentative: "Are you the person who knew my daughter Adona Ball?" it queried, and it was signed by a woman I assumed to be Adona's mother. Her mothers explained briefly that she was clearing out her closets when she came across some of Adona's journals. especially one of those recounting Adona's last year and a half before she passed on to be with Jesus. My name happened to be in the journal. So she thought she would try to find out who I was based on what it said. But, she never told me what Adona had written.
Adona had not been on my mind. I had certainly shared the story of my last visit with her with my Bible study classes, but, I had not been thinking about her that day at all.
An avalanche of memories occupied my mind's very soul. "What in the world is this about?" I wondered.
I responded to Adona's mother in like fashion. "Of course," I told her, "I was very, very sad that she had passed on, but, that I was positive that she was anxious for our arrival in Heaven with her." I also attached my recount of my last visit with her to give her a little context as to what Adona may have said. And I added that I hoped I had not upset her. "Oh, I don't think you need to worry about that," Adona's mother chuckled a little. "In fact, something tells me that we all may have gotten to know you a lot better if she had recovered," she said.
Two weeks after sending my reply, Adona's mother sent me a longer email back. She was so grateful I had attached the story of the last time I saw Adona. She aid that she remembered the day I visited, and Adona had told her and her father about how I explained her negative reactions to scents and food. She also said that she had sent my story to Adona's sisters who were mourning her absence with them but, praising her presence with the Lord.
My story had brought back many, many memories of their loved one, and her sisters cried and cried with tears and laughter at my story. I responded that I was again very, very sad that Adona had passed away, that I had never married when I had met Adona and that the Lord's purpose for me had not changed that since then. She responded for the last time, "By what she wrote in her journal, you can be sure that you were somehow very, very special to her."
That is my last contact with Adona's family. But, I will continue to remember her words to me that told me the kind of Christian she was. "I never thought of our senses that way," she said, "Thank you, Oh, thank you for sharing that with me."
We cannot out-grace God. The gift He gave us is the maximum Grace possible, Jesus Christ's sacrifice in propitiation for the sins of those who love and believe in Him.I want to invite you to share your stories of Grace that is worthy of praise. I would love to read and post them to glorify God and to reinforce in all our minds the certainty of His Word and all of our eternal futures. Your Grace opened the door to Heaven; Your Grace welcomed us in; Your Grace wonderful gift You've given; Your Grace is Worthy of Praise.
2 Corinthians 6:1 "And working together with Him, we also urge you not to receive the grace of God in vain."
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